Exclusive

A lot of people have problems with being exclusive. Somehow labeling whatever the relationship is will change things for the worse. This may sound confusing or unrealistic even, but if you want to start off on the right foot, you should try being exclusive before actually being exclusive. What I mean by this is, focus on just the person you're dating. Now I know what you're thinking, why be committed when you're not in a relationship? I'll answer that with another question. How do you properly process your feelings and emotions, good or bad, if the whole time leading up to a possible relationship, you've been sharing yourself?

Maybe this sounds strange to you, and I get it. It seems limiting and sort of like putting all of your eggs in one basket. Believe it or not, giving this same type of relationship-esque attention to someone else is taking away from your ability to build a strong foundation with this one person. Dividing that certain attention could make you miss key things. Mainly the little things like possible "red flags" or the subtleties that make you more drawn to them. That's what being exclusive while you're dating will do. You should be giving that same attention while dating to know if someone is really there for you, not only when you establish a relationship with a title.

Having an exclusive understanding of what you plan to be for the other is how you give each other a fair chance to see if anything more will actually work. I know it's hard when there are so many dishonest people out there, but when you find someone you think is worth, just try this and you may see the difference.

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