Forgive

Forgive and forget. I see so many people say they can forgive, but they'll never forget. And I still can't comprehend that. I figure people say that maybe because they don't want to forget the harm a person has done to them? I'm really not sure. But what I am sure of is that you'll more than likely always remember what a person has negatively done to you, but forgetting isn't forgetting that, it's forgetting that grudge. When people say they'll never forget, all that is is holding onto a grudge against them..which isn't healthy. Unless you have a special way of suppressing hurtful people and memories, you're bound to remember the bad. It's how you choose to remember it that makes the difference. You can remember, but forget about the situation and put it in the past. Saying and believing that you'll never forget about it is pretty much saying you're going to hold that in your life and carry it with you no matter how long ago it was. In what way does that benefit you? That's letting someone and a previous situation create a hold on you. And as small as that hold may be, you'd never know if that's the difference it takes to progress you forward in certain aspects of your life. Don't just forgive, forgive AND forget. Forget so you can free your mind and heart and let the grudge go.