Relationships

In my generation, relationships are pretty much either looked down on for being the worst trap ever or the number one most wanted thing ever. I, for one, am pro relationships. In my mind, what could be better than finding someone who accepts you and is willing to unconditionally love you? A friend, lover, personal support system, someone who understands you and just someone who makes it their job to make sure you're smiling at the end of the day...what could be better than that? Of course, we all know that person is not at all easy to find, so I think it's very unfortunate when younger people have already given up on relationships. I believe for the most part, a relationship is going to be what you make it. So if you go into a relationship with insecurities, it's pretty safe to say that that's what you're going to get out of it, insecurity. Of course relationships are basically trial and error, but really, who's fault is it if you've been in one with so many that you're past the point of believing in them?
It really makes no sense to me, though. They tell you you're young, go experience and enjoy life instead of looking for a relationship. But how do most of us learn exactly what we want and need from a person or just make it to that right person if we're too busy "experiencing" and not trying to settle down and take a chance? Of course, it's all your preference and what you're ready for at the end of the day, but you may never find that "one" and that last relationship if you never take the risk.
I think people realize after being heart broken or just with the wrong type of person so many times that a relationship isn't just all smiles and happiness, and just that alone is enough to dismay them. Personally, I don't understand how you could ever think that or how you could let the lack of ease turn you away. We're willing to work overtime for a job, camp out for material items, stay up late devoted to Twitter, but putting actual effort into a relationship to make it work is too troublesome for us. Like I said, it's all about what you're ready for, but you shouldn't look down on relationships when you've never actually tried to make one successful. I'm not saying if you put real effort into one that's the one that will be right for you, but it will be a step in the right direction towards finding that successful, lasting one. It's just not as likely for that to happen when you have a negative view and poor attitude when it comes to being in one. Give yourself and others a clean slate, open your mind to putting in actual effort and work, and stop letting people who end up not mattering change your view of what you want and can get.