Owning Up

We have to own up to our own faults. We can't reprimand others for what they haven't done because of what we've done. Just because you know people are capable of certain things doesn't mean they will do those things. Before you look down on others for what they MIGHT do to you, realize that you're only doing that because of what YOU have done to others. You have to be the change you want. You have to stop doing the things you wouldn't want people doing to you so you can grow and learn to trust that not everyone is interested in doing you wrong. When you first take a look at yourself before assuming other's actions, you just might figure out that you are partly the cause of what you go through. You attract what you put out, in general. Sometimes you do come across people who ignore any good you do and only cause you harm, but that's life and you learn from it. So that doesn't mean you have the right to treat anyone else poorly. If you've done bad or wrong by anyone, you have to learn and accept why, so you don't do it again. Then you have to learn to not treat others that way for any reason at all. Whether you're childish, trying to get revenge or just don't understand the magnitude of your actions yet, acting out towards others who have done nothing to you is wrong. Just because someone else does you wrong why would you think it's okay to treat the next wrongly? They've done nothing to you so give them their fair chance. However you want to look at it, give them their chance to do right by you or do you wrong. You can't assume every new person will do you wrong because that's all you'll see. When you've come to terms with your own actions and accept them for what they are, you can honestly treat others the right way. Because chances are you're treating them bad because of what you've done. You really only know what others are capable of..because of what you've shown you're capable of. Now would it be fair for someone to treat you wrongly and not give you the benefit of the doubt because of how wrong they've done others? Especially when that's far from your intentions? No, not at all. And I guarantee you most people wouldn't even stick around through that. So why test someone by treating them wrongly just so you can see if they're going to do the same to you? When it gets down to it, anyone can treat you wrong for any reason, so why not give a person a chance to treat you great rather than penalize them for how you've taken advantage of others in the past? In first owning up to your own actions, you can acknowledge the real reasons why you've done others wrong, and pay attention to whether or not you see those same actions in the person you're learning to trust.