I think as a young adult it's great to be able to admit that you're not ready for a relationship. Especially when that seems to be the thing to have. It's great to know that you aren't ready for that responsibility. But then why turn around and say you want someone who is down for you, will be loyal and have your back, someone who you're comfortable enough to just chill with? That sounds like a relationship if you ask me. Now don't get me wrong, having someone like that outside of a relationship is fine, but when you express how much you aren't ready for a relationship at this point in time in your life and then say that, you're simply contradicting yourself. And its not right because what you're really saying is that you want all the good of a relationship but you don't want the parts of the relationship that you actully have to work for.
Then you have the people who just don't agree with relationships as a young adult but turn right around to ask for the same things of someone, outside of a relationship. How can you want part of something you feel such a strong dislike for?
As you get older you have to understand that you can't be halfway involved in most things. You have to really understand why you want, or don't want the things you ask for because when you bring someone else into something you only halfway care about you might be setting them up to get hurt. The ironic part about that for some is that they look down on relationships because they've been hurt. Why start to do things that could cause others pain you try to make sure you won't feel again? It's selfish and possibly even greedy to want what you are not willing to give. Before automatically disagreeing with my viewpoint because you're one of those people, think about how you'd feel if you were ready to be there for someone like they need you to be and they only looked at you as a temporary thing. It wouldn't feel good to know that the one person you're down for has a limit on how long they want you there.
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